The factor of differentiation between children is also one of the greatest factors in the child's psychological deviation, whether in the tender or differentiation in treatment or in love? ..
This phenomenon has the worst results in the deviations of child behavioral and psychological .. they breed envy and hatred, and causing fear and shyness, and introversion and cry .. and inherited love of assault and melee and disobedience .. and lead to fears that night, and injuries nervousness, and compounds the feeling of inferiority ..
How was the first teacher e Wise, and socially a great educator when he ordered the parents to fear God and treat their children equally?!.
More People, said: The Messenger of Allah e : God bless the parents and helped his son to honor him. [1]
Ibn Abbas, the Prophet e He said: So they made in giving gifts to your children if you chose a favorite one for women. [2]
And Nu'man bin Bashir that his father brought him to the Messenger of Allah - e - I said to my son this boy Slim. Said, «and your child to eat like Slim». Said no. Said «Fardjah» [4] .
And Nu'man bin Bashir refused to ratify the said some of his money, she said my mother Amra girl Rawaahah not satisfied even seen the Messenger of Allah - e -. Hence, the Prophet refused to - e - To bear witness to the Sedkty said to him, the Messenger of Allah - e - «Avalt this Baldk all». Said no. Said «Fear Allaah and treat your children». My father and he came back one of those charity. [5]
People told me and Nu'man bin Bashir that his mother asked his father girl Rawaahah some talent of his money for her son Valtoy the year then he said I do not accept even seen the Messenger of Allah - e - On what came to my son.
He took my hand and I refused that day Ghulam came the Messenger of Allah - e - Said, 'O Messenger of Allah, the mother of this girl that she liked Rawaahah bear witness to that and came to her son. The Messenger of Allah - e - «O Bashir Alec was born only this». Said yes. Said, «eating and blowing him like this». Said no. Said «no Chhdny if I do not attest to the Gore» [6] .
Anas, he said, was with the Messenger of Allah e I'm a man came to him a drink of milk and made him sit on his thigh and then a girl came to his side Vocilha said: "Could adjusted between them." [7]
This guidance is taken from the Prophet's noble principle of justice, equality and love among boys .. .. without having a place of distinction or discrimination between them.
Yes! .. You may not love the child, and care of the causes of the phenomenon:
If a child of the unwanted sex out of ignorance for being female.
Or be a little luck of beauty or intelligence.
Be infected with disabilities or physical phenomenon. Or .. or ...
But all these reasons, moral and ethical is not a justification - in the eyes of Islam to hate the boy, his brothers and a preference on it.
How many parents are wrong-doers and Jaúran Anhjan with the child when this approach is bad, and Iemlana this cruel treatment?
What is the guilt of the child born to life, a female?
What was his crime that Dmim face?
Gererth and that did not create the intelligence Fart?
What if he gained a lot by nature of movement and troublemaking?
What if as much responsibility for him - he was very young - to become the phenomenon of physical disabilities?
If educators were keen on the safety of their children's psychological contract, and compounds the feeling of inferiority, and pests hearts of hatred and envy and corruption innermost .. they have no way but to carry out the command of the Messenger e Says: "Fear Allaah and treat your children," and liked it, including his oath of God to them from the data of boys or girls .. and they must also strive their best in the notice of their children all the spirit of love and brotherhood, tolerance and equality .. so enjoy in the shadows of the overall justice, and the perception of goodwill and compassion honest, and fair treatment ..
[1] - Uncategorized Ibn Abi Shaybah - (8 / 357) (25 924) and the manners of companionship of Abu Abdul Rahman, peaceful - (90) and the Mosque of Ibn Wahab - (137) good for others
Barr: The name of each collector meanings of good and kindness, honesty, obedience and good connection and transaction
Slim: given
[7] - Explain the meaning of effects - (4 / 89) (5847) correctly
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