Sticks and carrots of fundamental factors for the development and refinement of ethical behavior and promoting social values.
Carrots:
Represents an important and necessary in the first phase of the life of the child; because the work of the first uphill need incentive to do even become easy, as the carrots knows the habits and behaviors will continue with him and difficult for him to leave.
And carrots are two types: moral and material, and each Fabtsama degrees of satisfaction and acceptance, and kissing and annexation, praise, and all the delights that the child is the carrot at work.
Some educators to provide the moral reward on the first material; even live up to children about the love of material, some of whom felt that
Be the reward of sex work, the work was physically and financially reward the opposite.
There are special controls to ensure the success of breeders, including:
- that the carrots first step graded the child then to temptation with God than the reward of worldly and otherworldly, for example, wants the child to a good attitude are rewarded, and said to him: the best created you to order that loves you and your father and your mother, then said to God loves and is pleased with you, and this gradient fits the mentality of the child .
- does not become a reward to the requirement to work, and checks that should not be rewarded for the child to work and duty Koklh and food or arranged his room, but only to reward new behavior right, and be rewarded without the promised advance; because the promise of advance if the lot has become a condition of doing business.
- be directly after work, early childhood, and the completion of a promise not to learn the lies and broken promises, and in the late stage is better to delay the reward after a promise to learn to work for the Hereafter, and forget the fatigue that the work shall rejoice in the reward.
Intimidation:
In a recent study need jam to intimidation, and that the child who tolerate him and his parents continue to Azaaajhma, punishment correct behavior and morality, and intimidated his grades begin making frowning face and a look of anger and reproach, and extends to the province, abandonment, imprisonment, and deprivation of the group or material deprivation, beatings, the last grade.
It should be jam to avoid hitting a child as much as possible, but inevitable in the age at which distinguishes and defines the meaning of punishment and why.
Intimidation and control, including:
- If the error occurred the first time the child is not punished, but also teaches and directs.
- must be the rhythm of the sentence immediately after the error with a statement explaining cause and error behavior of the child; to forget what he might do if the delayed penalty.
- If the error still appears before the child's brothers and the household Vtkon punish them; because that would create an educational function for the whole family.
- If the penalty is to strike should be preceded by the warning and warning, and to avoid beatings on the head or chest or the face or abdomen, and that the stick is thick, and moderate humidity, and that the beating of one to three if the age of puberty, and he separated it be in the shop one, but said the child asked the help of his Lord and it should be stopped beating; because it instills the same in maximizing the child of God.
- The teacher should take beating himself up no malice at one another.
- not to punish him if anger; because it may increase the punishment.
- to leave the pain of punishment if the injury is due to the error and explained enough.
Education controls carrots and intimidation:
These controls and, God willing, _ _ protect the child from mental illness, and moral perversions, and social imbalances, and most important of these controls:
1- moderation in the carrot and the stick:
Perhaps the most experienced generations frequent intimidation and focus on corporal punishment, and this makes the child hard in his life later or humiliated and driven by each one, and therefore should be graded in the sentence; because the long-Education a long peace and punishment could end quickly if a breeder ship the battery, and should be for breeders to make available to intercessors opportunity to intercede and mediate for amnesty for the child and allow him to repent and accept him, and a lot of intimidation may be a reason to play down mistakes and get used to the beatings, and should therefore be wary of a repeat of punishment and one on an ongoing basis, as well as if it is less than necessary,
And not a lot of jam without the threat of punishment; because that would lead to neglecting the threat, if the breeder so he felt that the punishment is carried out even once, to be solemn.
And exit for moderation in the reward due to greed and lack of conviction lead to the child only to the extent than before.
The breeder should be away from the swearing and cursing and shouting during the punishment of the child; because that would spoil it and make him feel Balzlh and humiliation, and may generate hatred, and that the breeder to show the child that the punishment for him not grudge it.
It warns the breeder that follows sticks and carrots fear of creatures fear that dominates the fear of the Creator _ Glory _, Vijov child of God before everything, and his punishment in this world and the Hereafter, and warns that instills in the same taking into account the view of creation and the fear of them under control the Creator and the fear of his anger, It also warns of intimidation Bacharti child, doctor, or the dark or the other; because he needs them, and because the fear of them makes him a coward.
And some breeders do a lot of intimidation of the child that God Saazbh and enter the fire, does not mention that God heals and kicking
And enter Paradise, so intimidation rather than make the child does not care about penis fire; the large number of repeat family "will fire" or "Saazpk God; because you do such and such", and so improve the balance between a male Paradise and Hell, do not judge a paradise or a fire, but we say: The one who does not pray will not enter Paradise and tortured with fire.
2- taking into account individual differences:
Reflected the wisdom of the breeder in choosing the method appropriate to the educational aspects of several, including:
- that the appropriate sticks and carrots with the child's age, in the first and second year is usually enough face stitched up or be deprived of something he loves, in the third year deprivation of his toys that he loves, or go out to the stadium.
- be commensurate with the error, if spoiled or neglected played deprived of them, and if tampering with the house in vain to fit in the order assigned to it, and differs from the absurdity that can not be repaired.
- be commensurate with the child's personality, it is children who will be sensitive to the yen a shame enough reproach, from whom is he'd not benefit him only punishment, including the denial of his plays most of the beating, and some of them deprived of his friends most of the deprivation of money or candy.
- be commensurate with the positions, sometimes the child is Mstkhvia mistake so ignore the indirect and treatment is the perfect solution, but returned to him punished in secret; because the HTC jacket disarming modesty about what he is pleased to announced.
The children make mistakes in front of relatives or strangers, it should be punished separately after their child; punishment because they have broken the same Faihs inferiority, and defying the modesty of the people away.
- alternation between the types of reward and punishment; because repetition means lose their impact.
- taking into account individual differences in education Valold adult or adolescent be punished separately; because it has become a major, and must be respected by his fellow juniors, and admonishes them blamed if the error is declared; because the reprimand him or mistreat him to speak to disrupt the relationship between the adolescent and the educator, and be enjoined in the right child of the eldest male; because it set an example, a man of the house if his father was absent, sick or have died.
- individual differences and sex of the child Vabannt enough of punishment is not mentioned often enough; because her body is weak and driven by fear more easily.
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Pedagogy